Hands down, my best friend in the world is my Mom. Of course Mr. G is my best friend, too. He is my life partner. But my Mom and I go back further in the timeline of my life than anyone I have ever known. I am blessed to have the relationship that I have with her, and I am thankful for it every day.
Growing up and finding your way as an adult isn’t always easy. The past few years of my life have been challenging. There have been financial hardships and family struggles that have, at times, overtaken my life. Sometimes I think my Mom wishes my brothers and I could be little again. When we were kids, she could save us from anything. She was our world protector. When we were hurt, she gave us a bandaid and kissed our wounds. When we were having trouble in school, she talked to our teachers.
But now that we are older, my brothers and I have problems that she can’t fix, and sometimes that makes my Mom sad. But she never gives up. She is always there cheering us on and believing in us. Our victories are her victories. Our pain is her pain.
I want both of my parents to walk me down the aisle. It just feels like the right thing to do. I have a lot of respect for the tradition of the father walking his daughter down the aisle. I think it is wonderful, and I hope that my Dad doesn’t have hurt feelings. But, for me, I can’t imagine having my Mom sit on the sidelines for this. I want her to know that she still means as much to me as when I was a kid. Actually, she means even more.
My Mom and I (with Emma, of course).
My Mom and her kids.
I haven’t asked her yet. I am still waiting for a good time to “pop the question”.
Are any of you walking down the aisle with your Mom or someone else special to you?
Cyd
I am walking with only my dad because we share a really special bond, but I love when brides include their mothers. I think your momma is going to be thrilled!
Mo
What a sweet post!
Jonezy
I agree with Mo, very sweet post. I think it will just be my dad walking me down the aisle, I have thought about having both though. We’ll see..
Krista
I’m thinking of asking my mom the same thing, and I also have no idea how to ask her.
Victory Bird
I already asked my mom, and she was felt so honored! I can’t wait for both of my parents to be there with me!
Mrs. Heartfixer to be
In a Jewish wedding ceremony both parents walk their son and daughter down the aisle. I guess it makes a lot of sense.
If you are not Jewish this may look a little original but if it feels the right thing to do – why not?
jane in the waiting line
i think it is absolutely sweet. i plan on asking my mom.
AmyJean
I haven’t really posted about it (yet) but my brother will be walking me down the aisle. Long Long story… but seeing as you have experience with Korean 1st generation parents… you can probably only guess why. I’m happy about it nonetheless…
I think its sweet your mom will walk with you !!! Great photos!
RelentlessBride
LauraAnn
That is so sweet! I haven’t given the idea a lot of thought but I feel the same way about my mom! Thanks for the post, it definitely gave me something to think about and consider doing!
-J.Darling
I think that’s a great idea. If you’re worried about hurting your father’s feelings, or your mom’s, you could also have your dad walk you down the aisle, but have a special reading/gift given to your mom during the ceremony.
During my wedding planning in 2001 (yes, at one time I was married, but I am “unmarried” now), I wanted to somehow include my biological family and my legal family. I was adopted pretty much from birth and had found my bio parents in 1999. So they were very special to me, extremely supportive, etc. I ended up deciding to honor them by inviting them to the rehearsal, the rehearsal dinner, and having special seating for them right behind my folks in the chapel. I also paid special attention to them during the reception.
So there are always ways to make them feel special.