**DISCLAIMER: For some reason, I decided to rant today. If you are whistling while you work and having a wonderful day, you might want to skip my grumblings. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.**
Sometimes I have to step away from the computer, or a conversation with someone, and take a deep breath. Reading too much holier than thou crap written online or listening to someone drone on and on about their oh-so-perfect life makes me want to do two things. First, vomit. Second, wonder if there is something inherently wrong with me, my relationship, my work, my LIFE because I don’t have it all figured out.
Then I always remember that these people are lying to themselves.
For example, I was online the other day reading something that made me scratch my head. Some girl was writing about trust issues she was having in her relationship. For whatever reason, she was having a bad day and didn’t trust her man. Dozens of comments rolled in condemning her for her f*cked up relationship. And they didn’t stop there. Many gave page-long responses detailing their own relationships, what was wrong with her, and how they never distrusted their spouse.
Really?
Well, goody for you.
Maybe you are on mood elevators? Or maybe your spouse is a total loser and no one wants him but you? Or maybe you do have it all figured out?
My life is far from figured out.
But I’m glad I don’t walk around all day telling people how screwed up they are because they have a moment of low self-esteem, a fit of rage for no reason, or oh dear me, they have a passing feeling of ill will toward their spouse.
I can’t stand self-righteous bitches. Shut up and get in the real world.
Poor and Fabulous
Love it. I couldn't have said it better myself! Keep ranting, I for one love it when people present themselves in a true light and don't try and make everything sound so perfect all the time. Mrs. S
Anne
Yes! Thank you for this. I used to read certain blogs and feel bad about me and Jason's relationship because it wasn't cupcakes, hearts and flowers all the time. Sometimes I'm annoyed with him. Sometimes we fight. But that doesn't mean I don't love him.
If you feel like laughing about girls and their fantasy lives, read seriouslysoblessed.blogspot.com. It's a total satire site based on girls exactly like that. And it's hilarious.
ruthy ann
It sucks when people tread on someone elses vulnerability….encouragement is so lacking in people when we need it most sometimes.
BigAppleNosh
Well said!
-J.Darling
Encouragement and sharing is one thing, but NO relationship is "wine and roses" all the time. Some may be more romantic than others. Some may be more down to earth than others. (Heck, my best friend and her husband practically make bickering an olympic sport! It was to the point where I had to wonder if they were going to last – then I realized that, while I'm more the "pick your battles" type in relationships, they were more "address the problem, big or small, right now and resolve it".) You and L have your own unique dynamic that makes you work. (And even the wine-and-roses types have their days when they aren't sure if they love their spouse – been there done that myself.)
Love the rant. I feel blogging should be honest, but I'm a hypocrit – I don't reveal everything in my blogs either. 😉
MayLove
AMEN! I always feel like I suck at life when I read other people's blogs and they never, ever complain about their spouse or something that is bugging them. Like, wow am I that depressing of a person that I'm a newlywed and life isn't all roses and ice cream all the time? I'm always afraid people will comment and tell me what a horrible person I am for complaining about hubby, but I'm so happy that more often than not I am reassured by people saying that they felt the same way, and not to feel bad. I wish we saw that more often, and I truly appreciate you and your blog for being honest, and not pretending everything is peachy all the time!
@Anne- Thanks for that tip; I am definitely checking that one out! LOL And you should NOT feel bad; you and ur hubby are the cutest!
katie
<3! sometimes people just need to SHUT UP!
honey my heart
i agree!
Chic 'n Cheap Living
If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything (well unless you really, really deserve it) Sad that bloggers act otherwise.
Krista
My life's not perfect. I think I have pneumonia or am a hyperchondriac (am going to get checked out tomorrow), Wade and I have been fightng lots lately (he's stressed by work and is driving me nuts by bringing his bad mood home), my mother-in-law had a heart attack 3 weeks ago (but she's okay now) and my mom's cancer woes continue. I am not asking for pity – we are definitely lucky to have some of the things we have! As I know you don't want pity, but rather an outlet in your blog.
Although sometimes it's nice to feel like you have people "in your corner", doesn't it? 🙂
Not only does self-righteousness bother me, but why some people surround themselves with drama then proceed to complain about the drama in their lives?
Krista
That was just my attempt to say, in a round-about manner, that I'm not perfect, but I am happy with most of the way things are. I suspect you are similar. I am NOT good at collecting my thoughts. Sorry!
thelessthandomesticgoddess
After I read my little dose of verbal diarrhea, I was like, "Uh oh, they are gonna think I'm a total bitch!" But I clicked "publish" anyway and figured that this is me. Thanks everyone for your comments!