Today is just one of those days. This week has been one of those weeks. This morning I dreaded signing into Blogger because (a) I didn’t have a post scheduled and (b) I am shit out of luck with posting ideas.
It’s been rip roaring HOT all week. I know the east coast and other areas have been dreadful, but L.A. has been pretty decent…until NOW. I love sweating while I sleep. And the heat has been making everyone grumpy, so of course, L and I were going at it for the past day or so.
Yes, there are a few problems on the home front.
Without getting too specific, we live with my little brother. That’s right, I don’t think I ever revealed that on my blog, but yes, my brother is our roommate. The first time I told one of my friends this months ago, she responded with “WOW, that must be SO weird.” Well, thank you kind, sympathetic friend for your understanding. It isn’t always a bed of roses, but we are all trying to make it work. Have you ever heard of financial problems? Jerk. Ever since her reaction I have been exceedingly embarrassed to reveal our living arrangement, and don’t tell many people. Well, today I don’t care so there it is.
Anyway, I love my brother and generally we get along really well. But inevitably, there are always issues when you live with someone else, especially when you are married and living with someone else. At times, it sucks. This is one of those weeks.
In addition, I got the invite for L’s cousin’s baby shower. Out of the blue, I have been really bummed about this. It’s a women only shower, so I can’t even hide behind L for comfort. I know I have to go, but going means I have to sit next to my mother-in-law (everyone knows how comforting that woman is) and pretend to get excited about baby shoes, and playing that disgusting game where there’s chocolate in a diaper but it looks like shit. Haha, the chocolate looks like poop, HILARIOUS.
*EDIT: I realize the above paragraph makes me seem like a huge bitch. I love L’s cousin and am happy for her. The invite just came at a bad time. Also, that poop game really is odd to me. I take nothing back when it comes to the poop game*
The only light at the end of my tunnel are straight-from-the-box Pillsbury Funfetti cookies with Funfetti frosting that I plan on “making” this weekend. Making is in quotes because it is from the box. But I love Funfetti, and my mom makes the cake every year, so I can’t wait to try these.
Linda
I have a lot of friends that live with someone else-friends or family. It's not that uncommon in my circle of friends. Sometimes it sucks, but sometimes it's necessary.
Hope your weekend goes well!
Cathleya
Cheers to an equally long-feeling weekend to end your long-feeling-week 🙂 Enjoy the sunshine!
Sandy
Sorry it's been one of those weeks for you…it's been one of those days for me too…at least it's Friday…
That is a sucky response from your friend…I would have told her, "no, actually it's great b/c my brother is cool/awesome/fun and not a weirdo like you"
Hopefully your MIL won't do/say anything too bad…hang in there and focus how excited the mother-to-be is to have everyone there…sorry I have nothing more insightful/encouraging to say.
BigAppleNosh
🙁 I hope things pick up for you soon! The funfetti cake sounds really nice right about now.
ens
it's totally ok to be "in the hole" i just went through this myself last week. Just go with it. Plus i dont think it's embarrassing to be living with your brother.. WHO CARES!?
chin up.
Vanessa
Sorry you are having a bad week. I hope your weekend makes up for it!
Ali @ His Birdie's Nest
I hope your weekend and next week are better 🙂
I think it's awesome you let your brother live with you, you're a great sister!
P.S. I hate that poop game too! Gross!
Chic 'n Cheap Living
Ehh what's wrong with living with your brother (besides that you want your own privacy of course)? This from someone whose mother wants to buy her a house so her 2 children and families can live together (not sure if that will ever happen).
The poop game is weird. But you'll get through it and hopefully can sit next to others!
-J.Darling
Now you know why I am "sick" everytime someone has a babyshower. 😉
Kim
Do you really have to go to the shower? I know it seems impossible, but maybe you and L already have a trip planned for that weekend or something? I'm going through a similar baby shower related situation, so I feel you. A friend of mine has a baby due the same week mine was. I had a miscarriage, and just the idea of attending the shower nearly brings me to tears. And like you, it isn't that I'm not thrilled for her. I am! But it is just too sad for me. I know, in this situation, a gift and a lovely note will do. Sometimes it is okay to gracefully bow out of these things when you really need to. Just make sure you take care of yourself, okay?
Creature Gorgeous
Don't apologize. You are allowed (duh, goes without saying, and I'm a creep for even saying it) to feel down in the dumps or pissed. Someone once told me that life is 80% taking out the trash–meaning a chore. And it takes lots of work and dealing with a lot of frustration. Also with regard to the shower: totally allowed to feel annoyed, bothered, or sad. I guess it's weird or lame for me to say, but I feel you.
Also, that poop game is disgusting. I'm with you 100%. Totally allowed that piece of contempt.
Enjoy your funfetti cookies. Can we see them? Feel better soon.
Creature Gorgeous
p.s. there *IS* something about the heat that makes temperatures rise. G & I got into a good fight and I jumped out of the car along a busy intersection downtown. And then walked around the hot city feeling sorry for myself and in tears…until he came and found me. Hot weather=fights. It's a universal truth.
Creature Gorgeous
sorry, one more thing temperatures=TEMPERS.
Stilettos And Coffee
the east coast is REALLY bad right now. And things will get better for you and hubby. I've learned that marriage goes in cycles… happy then not so much, repeat. Don't worry about sour blogging we all have to from time to time.
Mo
Ok, I've been down in the grumps (I am super unpleasant today!) and now I feel better that I'm not the only one super grumpy from the heat! We can be grumpy in socal together, and you're right, that poop game is super weird. I vow never to do it if I have a baby shower.
Re: your baby bro, I also lived with my older sister and her boyfriend (now husband) for an entire year in New York. I lived on her couch while I was doing an internship, and it was definitely a challenge living together (many public fights, pm if you want to commiserate!) but I was thankful that she extended her couch to me when I was dirt broke and trying to figure out what to do with my life.
I hope that your weekend went well and that you feel better!
thelessthandomesticgoddess
Thank you everyone for your understanding and support! I wrote the post really quickly, clicked "publish" and was like, "Oh crap, what did I just do?" But I wanted to be true to myself and all of you, so I left it up. All of your comments really helped me feel better 🙂 I appreciate it so much!
MayLove
First of all *hugs*. Secondly, I had the same kind of week last week, and this week is starting of the same, if not worse. The heat makes me and hubby real grumpy Gus's, and we have had more 90+ degree days than in the past two years combined 9and we just got a/c last week)! Not good. It makes me so sad that we're so not deleriously happy in just the first two months of marriage! Is that normal, or do we suck? Anyway, I'm 100% with you on the baby shower thing, and the poop game (f-in gross) AND the funfetti!
Hope things get better!
thelessthandomesticgoddess
@Kim: Thank you for your advice and understanding. What you wrote really sunk in. I'm so sorry to read about your miscarriage. Big hugs.
@Creature Gorgeous: I'm glad you don't think I'm some pregnant lady hater. I think I came off kinda scary with my baby shower remarks! The fact that you get me and where I'm coming from makes me feel better. Oh, and the sweaty, "jump out of the car" fight – ummm, yeah, L and I have definitely had one or two of those. You aren't alone in that, P! 🙂
@MayLove: Not many of us are deliriously happy in the first few months, or first year for that matter! I had really high expectations of newlywed bliss, and was really REALLY disappointed when we weren't floating on a cloud 24/7. Give it some time. There are going to be growing pains, and you need time to adjust. I totally understand. Email me if you need/want to vent more 🙂