I took some time off of work to drive my grandparents to their doctors’ appointments. They are now in their early eighties, and it is increasingly difficult (and dangerous) for them to drive long distances. My mom usually acts as their driver, but she was busy today, so I agreed to help out.
After their appointments I took them to eat lunch. We had a long talk about life, politics, and everything in between. I always have good conversations with my grandparents, especially my grandpa. He loves to talk and mentally he is in great shape. If only his diabetes didn’t keep him from being more physically active. Anyway, as we left the restaurant, he put his hand on my shoulder and said, “It’s nice to have this time with you. After you get married, you’ll have other things to think about, other things to do.”
I looked at him and said, “Gramps, I’ll still be the same as I always am. I’m not gonna change!”
Thinking about it now, I guess I can’t say if marriage will change me or not. But I hope that I don’t get so consumed with myself and “married life” that I forget what is important and the people that are important to me. If it weren’t for everyone around me, I wouldn’t be here today.
xoxo,
carly
Linda Ly
Don’t worry too much about changing. I didn’t change anymore after I got married than before. We’ll always be changing, but how much is often times left up to us.
Cyd
To be honest, I don’t think marriage will change me that much…maybe once we have a kid if we opt to go that route, then I can see things changing dramatically.
LauraAnn
I really don’t think that married life will change a person. Now kids, that may be a whole different story!!!!! haha
-J.Darling
Life changes people. It’s inevitable. When people go from singledom to coupledom, things change. When things go from coupledom to married, things change. When things go from married to marrried-with-kids, things change. Marriage does change you, but in the best of ways. It grows you. It’s one of the last bastions of honor and accountability we have left today.
But don’t be afraid. It’s a good change. It usually makes you all the more grateful for those around you and gives you a deeper understanding of what other married members of your family may be been through. You come to appriciate the value of their commitment in an entirely new and beautiful way, as the years go by with your own spouse.
If there is one thing that is for certain in this life, it’s change. It’s everywhere you look. You’ll still be you. Just a “you” with different perspectives on things.
And your good relationships will be strengthened by your changes. Those that are unimportant, will naturally change as well and fall away.
You’ll be just fine. You’ll keep in your life those you make time for, and you’ll lose connection with those you don’t. Just as you made time for your grandparents today – as long as you keep that up – it won’t fall by the wayside. 🙂