Every time I blink, there is another pregnancy announcement. Even the tabloids seem to be experiencing a baby boom. Some of the newly minted pregnant celebrities really make me scratch my head. THEY are pregnant and not me? Oooookay. But I’m not gonna venture down that slippery slope.
On top of all of the announcements, pregnancies themselves are somehow moving at an accelerated pace. Ten-ish months is a pretty long time, but when you’re NOT pregnant (I repeat, not pregnant) those months fly by and you can’t believe so-and-so already gave birth. Similarly, newborns are becoming toddlers in about five seconds flat. Our baby cousin who I cradled in my arms, in what feels like it was just a few days ago, is now walking all over the place. And apparently he also knows baby sign language. At the last holiday gathering, his parents kept trying to showcase his signing abilities while he gave them the equivalent of a baby middle finger by completely ignoring them.
“Everyone” is moving forward, and strangely I haven’t moved an inch.
We have been married for about two and a half years, and are in our early thirties. We have officially entered the marital phase/reached the age where people are starting to wonder, “Where’s the baby?” Perhaps we are having relationship problems? Maybe we don’t want kids? Maybe we are focusing too much on our careers? Oh, inquisitive minds, I wish the answer were as simple as, “I love my job, and don’t want to slow down to have kids!”
I don’t blame innocent bystanders for wondering where our offspring are. People are usually just trying to make conversation. Sometimes I get a little perturbed at the extent of the questioning or the way questions are phrased, but I get over it rather quickly. It just sucks to keep getting asked about things that you don’t want to think or talk about. Sometimes I get tired of having to be “bigger” than the situation in front of me. I want to be petty and throw myself on the floor like a toddler.
Have you ever felt like you are being left behind in life? Not just in the baby sense. Ever felt like you are stuck, feet frozen, while everyone else around you moves ahead?