As you all know, L and I recently celebrated our one year wedding anniversary. Marriage has brought many wonderful changes in my life. However, one issue I am still grappling with is my last name. I know what you’re probably thinking. “One year later, and she’s still fidgeting around with her name? Change it or don’t, and shut up about it.” I hear ya. I’m trying…
When we signed our marriage certificate, my name officially became Carly Maiden Name Married Name, no hyphen. I didn’t anticipate that having two last names would cause such long term indecision. More specifically, I use whatever name I feel like when I feel like it. One of my email addresses includes my maiden name, the other features my married one. We have a few sets of stationery and a return address stamp that say Carly & Lawrence Married Name.
My name changes with my moods, too. When I’m being a good wife, I’m Mrs. Married Name. When my husband is being an ass, somehow my maiden name pops back in the mix. It’s really quite convenient. Oh, and I have yet to change my social security card, credit cards, passport, or driver’s license.
Oh no she di’int!
I think part of the issue is that I am still not ready to give up my maiden name. I never thought I had an attachment to it until I had to drop it. Then all of a sudden, I was like, “Gimme my name back, bitches!” Go figure.
I also haven’t completely subscribed to the thought of being Mrs. Married Name. When someone says, “Mrs. Married Name”, I turn around and look for my mother-in-law. I keep telling myself that when we have children, I will officially take L’s name FOREVER. I assume that will probably happen, but I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.
It’s not that I don’t want to take L’s name. I get a little high off of seeing my name as Carly Married Name. I don’t know what my problem is. I’m an indecisive girl when it comes to big decisions in my life. Always have been.
L’s opinion today is the same as it was a year ago. It’s my name, my identity, and I can do what I want. I appreciate that. Actually, he ended up taking my maiden name as his middle name. Did I mention that? Yeah, he’s awesome. End of story.
What have you done about your name since getting married? Do you still respond to your maiden name, or did you drop it like it’s hot? Any issues transitioning from your maiden to married name?