At times throughout my planning process, I have felt like I am on a little island alone emailing vendors, researching details, scheduling appointments, trying to adhere to our budget and timeline, worrying about everything. Ready.to.pull.out.my.hair. Understandably, I have gotten tired and frustrated.

A few times I have hit the wall and lost it. My fits (I’ll call them “bridal tirades”) haven’t been too severe, but let’s just say they don’t paint me in the most attractive light. I’ve noticed that I usually manage to utter lovely sentiments similar to, “Why am I the only one that cares about this wedding?” Mr. G, my mom, and others have been lucky enough to hear this a few times since we got engaged. Apparently no one understands what I am going through. Riiight, because no one in history has ever been married before. My feelings are completely unique. Uh-huh.

Despite my sometimes jaded perception of reality, I am definitely not the only person who “cares” about this wedding. A lot of people care. They just have their own lives. And their own lives don’t revolve around my wedding. It’s no offense to me or the wedding, but while I sit and deal with wedding-related business, life goes on all around. Who knew?

A couple of weeks ago, I decided I would never, ever pull that “no one cares” crap again. Any outside help I received would be deemed an honored favor. Friends and family would be met with “thank you’s” and love rather than my scowling face, regardless of if things were going smoothly or not.

I don’t think that I am a selfish person. But, sometimes this wedding stuff has gotten to my head. I’ve needed a little self-reminder, “Hey, Miss Glitter, grow up!”

Have you had any wedding-related meltdowns? How have you kept it together?

April 30, 2009

thelessthandomesticgoddess

6 Comments

  1. honey my heart

    May 4, 2009

    i don’t know if i’ve had an official meltdown, but i have had those feelings of being the only one invested in the wedding planning process. to alleviate any stress i try to take myself away from planning for a few days, assign family wedding related tasks/errands, and taking a nice break to pinkberry 🙂 hope that your plans are moving smoothly.

  2. Mo

    May 4, 2009

    I totally hear you. I feel like I’m the only one that cares, but I haven’t really voiced it to anyone.

    I did however have a couple meltdowns, and since then I just try and keep information to a minimum–sucks, I know, but it’s made things more manageable.

    They’ll thank me when they have a really pretty party to attend.

  3. -J.Darling

    May 4, 2009

    Hang in there! I remember when I was engaged and my mom’s friend started laying into her about how “You can’t have disposable plates, are you kidding? NO Chair covers?! What are thinking?! No Dj?” Etc etc…

    I was much more interested in a small, inimate, low budget, yet lovely, event.

    When my mom nodded along I could have killed her! I was so mad! How dare this other woman come in and tell my mom how to run MY wedding!!!!

    Well, it turns out my mom was just passifying her friend and in the end, we found a happy medium.
    I’m pretty sure that was my only “melt down”. But it certainly wasn’t pretty!

    Hang in there. Your family and friends probably want to help and are just waiting for you to loosen the reigns and give them some tasks that you can trust will be done just the way you’d like. 🙂

  4. -J.Darling

    May 4, 2009

    BTW – I love your new header!

  5. thelessthandomesticgoddess

    May 4, 2009

    @honey my heart: Oooh, Pinkberry! I need one of those right about now…
    @Mo: Absolutely agree! Keeping info to a minimum is a great tactic that I’ve adopted in the past few months. 🙂
    @J. Darling: Yep, everyone seems to have an opinion! What’s up with that? Thanks re: my new header! It was time for a change!

  6. AmyJean

    May 5, 2009

    The best thing for me is to breathe and try to look at the big picture… that helps me alot!
    RelentlessBride

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