Can I tell you a secret? I’ve never planned an event in my life (unless you count a friend’s birthday at a local restaurant as “event planning”). And I don’t know what I’m doing. Shhh, don’t tell anyone.
Often times, I feel genuinely out of my league when reading through the posts of other Bees or looking at weddings in magazines or online. Picture-perfect brides remind me of that girl from one of my college English classes. She always had the correct answers, and her nailpolish matched her shoes. Next to her, I felt like the awkward girl in the back of the classroom who needed to borrow your pen and wasn’t caught up on my reading. Always one step behind.
I care about wedding planning (or I wouldn’t be blogging about it), but I’ve got to be honest with myself: I’m a big picture type of person. Ask me what marrying Mr. G means to me, and I could probably write a novel about it. Ask me if the groomsmen’s ties should be matching the bow on the bridesmaids’ dresses, and my indecisiveness takes over.
I have general concepts of what I want everything to look like and how I want the day to run. But, now it’s crunch time. T-minus three months to go. Wedding tasks are becoming very specific. Details, details, details. I feel myself wanting everything to be just right. Since when did I become a perfectionist? And who said everything had to be perfect anyway? I’ve got my stomach in knots every night. But why? Maybe I’m trying to be the flawless girl from English class. But I can’t be her, I can only be me.
I need to remember to remain true to Mr. G and I, and what we want our wedding to be. Weddingbee and other sources of inspiration have helped me tremendously. Without them, I honestly don’t know where I would be. But, when all of this is done, I can guarantee two things: my wedding will be over and I’ll be married. Through all of this, Mr. G and I may not be featured in Martha Stewart Weddings. It probably won’t be perfect, but I hope I’ll love it because it’s ours.
Have you found yourself striving toward wedding perfection? How have you dealt with that need to get every detail just right?
Blablover5
Deligation is a great way to get around all of those stupid little deicisions that just don’t matter to you.
Don’t care what you walk down the aisle too? Ask your musician or someone else to pick. Don’t care what shoes your bridesmaids are wearing just let them pick.
I think all those stupid magazines that give this vision as though the bride picked and chose every damn little detail right up to the color of the grass and the tint of blue in the sky give a huge disservice to everyone.
But then again I didn’t come close to having a perfectly matched and preped wedding that would show up in Martha’s pages. Instead we just had a ton of fun.
Cheap Wife
Ahmen Sister! 🙂
I feel the exact same way.
I have to remind myself that I “Am not Martha Stewart”
It is really hard. With all these ideas on line. You see fellow bloggers pull off the most amazing crafts. “You mean you grew your OWN cotton for the paper to make these invitations?!” haha
And for a moment..you somehow convince yourself that you TOTALLY could do the same thing. And then you look in the mirror and say “who am I kidding?…I have never been that level of a crafty girl”
Though I LOVE drooling over people’s amazing projects….I think we need 2 sites. One for those amazing people who have always been so crafty…and one for the REST OF US. Girls who didn’t even KNOW what a bone folder was until last month! LOL!
-J.Darling
I think you have the right idea, actually. Too many brides get caught up in the details. Check out the blog I have written, from a guest perspective, about weddings. Honestly, I could care less what I eat, if the chairs have slip covers, if there ARE chairs, etc. It’s not MY day. Sure, making guests comfortable is a great goal, but in the end, ask yourself what’s really important here?
I think you have a good grasp on that. To marry the man who holds your heart.
Don’t get me wrong, guests being comfortable is important, but they are there for YOU. I’d rather be surrounded by family and friends in a humble ceremony, than have a huge wedding of people who just came for the reception.
Keep the big picture in mind. You can work out the details. It’s not as overwhleming as you might think. Afterall, if anything goes wrong, it’ll be something you’ll laugh about later- something that made your day unique. 😉
Be the cool, calm, collected bride. Not bride-zilla. 😉
Stephanie
I agree reading online and seeing all these different brides come up with all these great creative ideas can be a little bit intimidating. Don’t stress and don’t let yourself get overwhelmed everything will work itself out! If you need extra help try reaching out to your maid of honor or bridesmaids!
AmyJean
I’ve decided to go the route of focus on a few things to get “just right”… and those are the things that i want to remember… That way i dont stress over the little things 🙂
RelentlessBride
Krista
Don’t aim for perfecction. Aim for a fun day!
That’s what I’m doing.