So there are all of these reasons why there may be lost connections. Yet, there is also the fact that, for me, mommy groups have brought me right back to junior high school. I’ve felt the sting of not being invited to get togethers; with other moms openly planning play dates in front of me and not inviting me. I’ve dealt with that bitchy mom who has met me a handful of times and still pretends like she has no idea who I am. I’ve even been unfriended on Facebook from a fellow mom from a past mommy group because…well…I don’t really know why. *eye roll* Needless to say, it can be harsh out there in the land of moms.
All of this emphasis on making new mom friends has made me self-conscious. I started to really care about what others thought and have lived in fear of being judged by other moms. At times, it has been downright miserable and lonely. It has made me feel vulnerable and unsure of myself. It has brought up old insecurities that I let go of back in…eighth grade.
For me, having mom friends is more about quality than quantity. I don’t expect to click with tons of people. It’s not as much about being a part of a pack as feeling like you are surrounded by people who lift you up and empower you; who don’t judge you and just get it. We all want to feel like we are loved for who we are. When you are part of a group, but not connecting with anyone on that deeper level, that’s where the loneliness comes in. It’s that feeling of being in a crowd, but still feeling completely alone.
If you have no idea what I’m talking about, consider yourself lucky. But, I’m putting this out there in case other women have gone through or are going through something similar. Mommy groups can be tricky sometimes, and forging connections with other women at this time in my life has been tough.