L and I ended our six month losing streak. We scheduled a date night and actually followed through. WHAT.

It had been a crappy weekend for me (due to endometriosis), but I was feeling somewhat human when Sunday evening rolled around. We left K with my parents and had dinner by ourselves. It wasn’t anything fancy; just a ramen spot in Little Tokyo that has been on our “to try” list for a long time, but it was long overdue.

Here are a few photos as proof.

L and I were discussing it, and we definitely don’t recommend doing what we did. Six months without any alone time away from the house was a bad idea. (It happened for several reasons which I explained in greater detail in my previous date night post.) However, we still allowed it to happen. Our biggest lesson – it’s important to be realistic. We were holding out, waiting for this grand event where we would wine and dine each other, stay out for hours, and sit by candlelight braiding each other’s hair.

We realize now that it’s the little things that count. A casual dinner might not seem like a game changer in any way. But, in the grand scheme of things, a marriage requires maintenance. The little details add up and can eventually make or break you. Who knows when we’ll be able to set up another date, but I’m thinking we need to find a way to make it happen a lot more.

LOCAL FRIENDS: Where’d we get that amazing ramen?

Men Oh Tokushima Ramen
456 E 2nd Street
Los Angeles, 90012



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    February 24, 2016

    My mom has always told us to put our relationship with our spouse ahead of even our relationship with our children. WHOA! who says that? But I think it is seriously important when you realize you only rent your kids for 18 years, and your spouse is with you FOREVER! So glad you guys got out!

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      February 29, 2016

      "You only rent your kids for 18 years, and your spouse is with you forever…"

      Ummm, I never thought about it like that, but it's SO true!! It's really important to nourish our marriages! Thank you for the encouragement, M. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    Bailie Hemborg

    February 25, 2016

    You are cracking me up as I do that too, plan out this huge things in my mind and then realize just eating dinner together with no TV or work/school/immigration issues to deal with is good enough most times!

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      February 29, 2016