I’m a really pensive person. Have you noticed? πŸ™‚

I think about everything, probably sometimes too much.

In addition to being pensive, I am also cheesy and I like inspirational quotes. I am all about this quote right now (which isn’t necessarily inspirational, but speaks the truth). I am at a crossroads in one pretty major friendship in my life. I miss how things used to be with this person.

Everyone changes, and as much as I don’t think I’ve changed and it’s all the other person, it’s me too. Whenever a close relationship falls apart or you face some kind of struggle, there are always two sides to the story. We are both responsible here.

Basically, this post goes out to anyone that has a relationship in their life right now that is under construction or in transition or even beyond repair. Time marches ahead, and change is inevitable. That’s one part of life that I am still learning to accept.



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    July 13, 2010

    Hi Carly,
    My name is Elaine and I'm your mom's cousin. I saw her after 25 years at Kevin Tamaki's wedding. I was the one swimming with her and her sister in the pool. We had so much fun together and I understand the sadness of losing a relationship. I have a few good friends who love me unconditionally. They are treasures to me and even though we don't live close I respect their advise and opinions and we keep our boundaries with one another. Some friendships last for many years and some may come and go but if they are really special keeping in touch each week requires time and effort and I'm hoping to get reacquainted with your mom who by the way is awesome.

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    July 13, 2010

    I've definitely had some friendships fade and wane over the years; it's always tough. I hope you can work things out with your friendship in transition!

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    July 13, 2010

    I have come to learn that friends are kind of like planets – we're all on different orbits and we only meet for a certain amount of time. That doesn't mean that we won't meet again.

    Take care of yourself.

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    July 14, 2010

    @Elaine: It's so nice to hear from you! My mom told me about your reunion at Kevin's wedding. She had a great time, and was very happy to see you after all of these years. I am happy for both of you that you have the chance to be in each other's lives again. I agree with you about friendships. The good ones should be treasured. You are lucky to have a few close, trustworthy friends you can rely on. Thanks for reading my blog! I hope we can keep in touch πŸ™‚

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    July 14, 2010

    Man, that's how I feel about my sisters/mom right now. It stinks. I feel like they have no idea who I am at all; and vice versa. πŸ™ I have lived 1,800 miles from them for the past 14 years. And it shows. I empathize, and hope your situation improves, too!

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    honey my heart

    July 15, 2010

    i really like that quote. while i am not in a crossroads in any relationships now, i have been in the last year and can commiserate. sending you positive vibes!