Thank you for your “get well” wishes! I think I am finally alive again after the nasty flu of June 2010. I haven’t been that sick for a loooong time. I’m talking more than seven years. I only know this because L and I have been together seven years, and me no ever get this sick.

As I was lying in bed sweating and deliriously humming to myself, L was my Korean Florence Nightingale. He put a cold towel on my head, made me soup, and generally took care of my every flu-ish need. When Monday rolled around, he took one look at my disgustingly dirty hair, and knew I wasn’t well enough to care for myself. I might be a lazy bum, but I have to wash my hair every day. It’s kinda my thing; as in, the one thing I cling to when times are tough. Clean hair. If it smells, I’m all out of whack. Well anyway, he knew that dirty hair meant I was in bad shape, so he stayed home from work, without my asking, to be my nurse.

I’m not saying this to brag about my husband. My readers know that we don’t have a perfect marriage. We have done and will continue to do things that piss each other off. We mouth off to each other. Sometimes I get mad when he stares at some random woman’s ass in public. It’s what we do.

But, even through my sick haze, I was floored. I was a smelly, ugly, sick troll, and he couldn’t get enough of me. The weirdo seemed to love me even more. How is that possible? I guess if he didn’t care about me when my chips were down, I might feel pretty hurt.

But husbands/boyfriends/etc. can be strange birds. Sometimes, as the wife/girlfriend/etc., we whine and complain and mope to get their attention. We just want to understand what’s going on in their brains (sorry to say, but at times the answer to that is “not much”). Usually, they bat us away and are willing to do anything to avoid another discussion about “feelings”. At least that’s how L and I can be.

But when they see the woman they love experiencing pain or in distress, we get a glimpse of their tender side. They may not know exactly what they’re doing, but if they’re trying to figure it out, if they want to figure it out, that’s a start, no?

This week, I got that reassurance that my husband really cares. To show my appreciation, I promise to quit complaining…unless I get really pissed off…or I have a low self-esteem day…or…ok, nevermind. No complaining for awhile, I swear ๐Ÿ™‚

Have you ever been down and out and seen the softer side of your significant other?

June 12, 2010



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    June 11, 2010

    This is my hubby-to-be to a tee. He is all 'I have 0 feelings' but if someone upsets me, or I'm sick he shows he does care. =)

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    June 11, 2010

    This is my hubs too. I love him for it. I called him home from a night out with friend once because I had a 103.5 fever. I felt so bad, I was deliriously apologizing, but he shushed me and hovered over with me with cold cloths until it started to go down.

    Also, a few years ago when we were moving me out of a third floor walkup apartment, I was carrying a box down the stairs, him right behind me, and I stumbled. I dropped the box but saved myself on that landing with no injury, but he zoomed to my side and grabbed me and crushed me close. I don't think I've ever seen him so pale and frightened. It secretly warmed my heart, I will admit.

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    June 11, 2010

    "in sickness and in health" is what he promised right? It's funny how guys surprise us in the moments we least expect it… but you gotta admit that it reminds us of why we love them and fall in love with them all over again. Glad to hear that you've recovered!

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    June 11, 2010

    Oh yea! I seem to always be sick; in fact I used up about all my sick days by March this year. Hubby is AMAZING when I am sick. He's never stayed home , but always asks if I want him to, and I always tell him "no" because when I'm sick I just sleep- ALL DAY LONG- so why make him stay home for that? It's amazing how one day I can be badgering him about not helping around the house, and the next he's not only picking up all the slack, but he'll go out of the way and do more. The house, the dog, me; he takes care of everything without a word. LOVE him!

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    June 11, 2010

    I think it's times like that in life that really show you who you can count on. He obviously considered you top priority – and probably always does. But when you're not really physically in danger, he probably knows you well enough to know that you can take care of yourself in general. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Why not find something cool to do to say thank you? Maybe order some cheese and crackers to have delivered to his work? Or surprise him with dinner or "I'll do anything you want"? Not that the man needs it, but it's always great to know what you're doing is fully completely appreciated. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Especially those things that are second nature (like caring for the ones we love).

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    Chic 'n Cheap Living

    June 14, 2010

    L is so sweet to you (as he should be). I know my husband would be the same way. I haven't been very sick around him, but the Mr. is so patient even when I'm in some strange volatile mood. I do warn him that if I'm ever pregnant, he may have to run around a bit though. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    June 14, 2010

    So glad you're getting better. I hate being sick, but I love it when the Hubby takes care of me. And it makes it seem so much more important when he gets sick himself. AS for the complaining thing- I don't think I can ever stop.

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    Chicken Wing

    June 16, 2010

    I am so glad you are feeling better! L sounds like he was on point while you were down and out!