This dilemma pops up in my mind a lot. Not for me, for my brother.
Call me a doting (annoying) older sister. Call me whatever you want, but I am wondering if maybe my readers can help me understand the dating world after age 25, or rather mid to late twenties.
You see, my brother is 25 years old. He’s currently studying to get his masters in Education. He’s smart, very good looking (ok, I might be biased, but he IS), in great shape, and the kindest soul I know. The issue?
He’s single. Like has been single for a long time.
He used to work with all married elementary school teachers. Not much opportunity there. Now he’s in school full time, but his program is small. I get the feeling there’s like one eligible lady, and every guy in the class wants her. He’s not the type to play the field. In fact, he is a pretty shy guy. He says that he’s looking for a nice girl with similar interests and priorities. I used to think he wasn’t looking in the right places, or he was being way too picky. But now I am wondering if it’s a mixture of being picky and a lack of opportunity to meet new people?
One of his dates that I met (at our wedding) was a “model” (that’s a loose term, apparently) who, I’m sorry to say, had perhaps two or three more brain cells than a potato. She didn’t appear to be a “nice girl with similar interests and priorities.” She seemed like a pain in the ass that would probably cause a lot more trouble than she was worth. I wasn’t too surprised when that went nowhere.
I want him to find a good woman. I don’t want him to miss the window of opportunity at love. He’s young, but not that young. It is not so outlandish to think that if he found “the one” he’d be ready to settle down and soon. I think this quote from When Harry Met Sally (one of my favorite movies ever) kinda sums up some my point:
All I’m saying is that somewhere out there is the man you are supposed to marry. And if you don’t get him first, somebody else will, and you’ll have to spend the rest of your life knowing that somebody else is married to your husband
Is it possible to let love pass you by? Do you have an increasingly difficult time meeting new potential mates the older you get? Is it about putting yourself out there and going after what you want? Or should you wait and be patient? I personally don’t think you should wait for anything to come to you. There is such a thing as being overly-eager, but I don’t think my brother is suffering from that.
What is the deal with dating in your mid to late twenties? I was with L by the age of 21, so I don’t really have much experience with dating after college. I’m curious how you meet people when you are sick of going to bars and clubs, and meeting drunken idiots like my husband. Totally kidding, honey! (I realize not everyone at a bar is a drunken idiot, but let’s face it, most of them are old married farts or they aren’t looking for anything serious.) I’m tempted to start an online profile for him on Match.com or some other dating site. Too much?